Jesus turns the standards of the world on their head when he defines greatness in the kingdom as humbling yourself like a little child. In Matthew 18:15–20 Jesus’ commands on dealing with conflict contradict the expectations of the world.
Go to your brother. Resolve problems just between the two of you. Keep in mind the context. As Christians, we are “little ones” in Christ’s kingdom. Even when your brother sins against you, treat him, not as an enemy, but as a brother. All of God’s people, children as well as adults, need to handle conflict in a way that glorifies God. Some offenses are small enough that they should be simply overlooked. But problems that are big enough to harm others or the sinner, should be resolved. Going to your brother is a positive action, that replaces hatred and resentment in your heart, Leviticus 19:17. The first step is to go to your brother or sister. Don’t gossip about him, don’t talk to others. Go with a tentative attitude and a willingness to listen. Keep on going. The imperative implies a continued action. Resolution and reconciliation at this stage mean that you have won your brother—and that’s much better than winning an argument! “Loving confrontation is often the key to repentance, which can remove the root causes of conflict and open the way for genuine peace.” (Ken Sande, The Peacemaker, p. 20)
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